Many of us have dreamed about getting back together with an ex at some point.
Whether your relationship ended because you did something regrettable, they found someone new or one of you moved away. We can help you increase the chances of a reunion.
Not all break-ups are permanent, and many couples have enjoyed things much more the second time around following reconciliation. Some people have even married the same partner more than once. If you do want your ex back in your life, there are steps you can take to show them you are still interested without coming across as creepy. One thing that can work in your favour is giving your ex some space. If you have just split up with someone, it’s unlikely that you will get them back by bombarding them with texts and social media messages. It’s definitely better to wait until the dust has settled before you reach out to them again. The more desperate you look, the less likely it is that reconciliation will take place. Make sure your feelings for your ex are genuine – don’t just get into contact with them because you have been unable to find anyone else or are experiencing boredom.
The etiquette remains the same whether you are interested in getting back with a male or female partner. If you have only started to want your ex back because they have become involved with someone else, it’s wise to simply let them move on. Another thing you should avoid is criticising them, either to their face or behind their backs. There’s a big chance your words will get back to them if you do unleash your anger to someone they are still in contact with. Try to keep your anger to yourself if you do feel this way. It’s also advisable to avoid broadcasting any secrets that they might have told you in happier times, or any other information about them that they would prefer others not to know. Badmouthing an ex can crush any chance you have of getting back with them.
There are no guarantees that your ex will return to you, but there is a much bigger chance of this happening if you remain on good terms with them. Did the split occur due to problems in your relationship? Can these be fixed? If you broke up because of something that you did, can you promise this won’t happen again? Maybe you ended things on good terms, but it simply wasn’t possible to continue? Perhaps the end came about because one of you took a job in another town or city? If so, reconciliation is more likely than it would be if you had cheated on them. A reunion may not be such a good idea if you argued about future plans and your opinions haven’t changed. You should also find out whether your former partner is actually available before you attempt reconciliation. One way to do this would be to start a casual chat with them – chances are they will let you know about their current relationship status during this conversation. If they do agree to meet up with you offline, try to opt for a casual location rather than a romantic restaurant or anywhere else that could seem inappropriate. The key is to take things slowly in these situations whilst you are gauging your chances of reconciliation. You may well decide that they are not right for you, after all, once you have started new conversations.
If you really do want to get back into a former flame and the end of the relationship was your fault, you really will have to put the work in. You will have to work hard to convince them that you have changed and you won’t be repeating the same errors. Once the dust has settled, you may have a better understanding of why things didn’t work the first time around and have a clearer idea of what you both want. Talk about what you did and didn’t like about the relationship and how things could work in a new scenario. Even if you are both willing to give things another go, there’s a reason why things fell apart the first time around, so these issues must be addressed.
If you are eager to make your former partner find you attractive again, it’s best to show that you have moved on with your life. The more desperate you seem, the less likely they are to be interested. Making an ex like you again can seem like a daunting task, but it’s certainly not an impossible one. Try to show them the best version of yourself you can and avoid displaying behaviours that may have put them off you when you were first together. You do need to carefully consider why you want your ex back. Don’t just try to reconnect with them because you have been unable to find a new partner and don’t like being single. Maybe your first relationship didn’t work because you were in the process of getting over a previous partner, or you feel you didn’t appreciate them enough at the time? Before you try to get your ex back, it’s a good idea to talk about your feelings with someone that you can trust. A friend or family member may be able to help you make sense of how you feel and whether this is something that you should pursue.
Although there is no guarantee that you will be able to get your ex back, there are steps you can take to present yourself in the best possible light and show the other person that you understand what went wrong. Avoid putting them under pressure and bombarding them with correspondence, but do tell them how you feel when the time is right, and you are confident they’re ready to hear you out. Even if it doesn’t work out, you can still give it your best shot without making them feel overwhelmed, intimidated, or angry. You can always join an online dating site and start a profile if you decide to meet someone completely new.